Your Concerns about Not Minding/Doing the Opposite, School Age
Your Concerns about Not Minding/Doing the Opposite, School Age
You said that your child does not do what you ask or does the opposite.
Your child may also argue, talk back, or disobey you. When your child does
these things it is upsetting to you and/or his/her teachers. Some children
who do these things very often have a problem called Oppositional
Defiant Disorder (ODD).
Your child may be acting in one or more of the following ways:
Loses his/her temper
Argues with adults (for a long time)
Refuses to do what you ask
Says "No!"
Does things to annoy others (i.e., Turns up the radio too loud on purpose)
Blames others for his/her mistakes
Is "touchy" or easily annoyed by others
Makes up excuses for his/her mistakes
Repeatedly asks "Why?" when asked to do something
Says mean and hateful things when upset
Seeks revenge against those who have "wronged" him/her
This type of behavior is more common in boys that girls. In addition, it is more likely for children to
behave this way with mothers than fathers.
Warning signs that things are getting worse:
Loses his/her temper several times a day
Often refuses to do what you (or any other adult) ask
You become even more concerned about the things your child is doing
Your child's teacher is concerned about these things
If you think your child is getting worse, talk to your doctor even if you have discussed
this problem before.
