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I'm confused about my gender

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I'm confused about my gender

I'm confused about my gender

Some people feel they were born in the wrong body. They may feel like they should be a boy instead of a girl or a girl instead of a boy. Other people are born with female and male sexual characteristics. They may consider themselves either a boy or a girl or intersex (just the way they are). If any of these scenarios sounds like you, you may be feeling confused and unsure. It is very important to reach out for support as you figure out your gender orientation (e.g., male, female, intersex). You may also be figuring out your sexual orientation (e.g., gay, straight). You probably have lots of questions like:

  • Does this happen to other people?
  • Am I going to be okay?
  • Does this mean I am gay?
  • How do I tell my parents and friends?

Be assured that many other people before you have gone through this, survived, and even thrived! A good place to start is to get information. The library and the web are great places to read about others who have been confused about their gender. You can also get facts and get in touch with local support groups or hotlines. Below are some suggestions of resources. Also you might confide in your doctor. Your doctor has a pledge to keep your medical history private so you can feel safe talking to them. And your doctor will have suggestions of places that provide information and support.

Resources: Trans Proud, The National Coalition for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender Youth, 369 Third Street, Suite B-362, San Rafael, CA 94901-3581. On the web at Click on Queer America (or go to to get a listing of support groups and organizations for questioning, gay, lesbian or transgender youth near your hometown.
Intersex Society of North America, 979 Golf Course Drive #282, Rohnert Park, CA 94928. On the web at:

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