General Advice (See Also:
Helping Siblings Get Along PT)
- Help parents foster sibling cooperation by teaching trading and taking turns; providing
chores and games with joint goals; encouraging noncompetitive activities; and positively
reinforcing successful interaction, for example, through "marks". (See Also:
Marks for Good behavior pt)
- Encourage regular "family meetings" to discuss and negotiate sibling issues
(See Also: Family Meetings pt)
- Recognize that rivalry between siblings is almost universal
- Discuss providing single children with additional opportunities to learn social skills,
e.g. play dates, spending time with extended family, day camp in the summer, and involvement in community
groups and activities.
Preparing for and Managing the Arrival of New Siblings
(See Also:
Helping Siblings Adjust to the New Baby PT)
- Consider sibling preparation classes and discuss realistic descriptions of newborn behavior
with other siblings. Encourage parents not to force siblings to interact with newborns.
- Provide adequate support for new parents, while advising them about ways of helping the
older children cope with the demands of an infant sibling.
- For toddler-aged older siblings who demonstrate regressive behavior such as requesting
bottles or pacifiers, talking 'baby talk,' and asking to be held like a baby, Lieberman (1993) recommends
accepting the toddler's behavior. Doing so will reassure the toddler that he or she is still loved.
- At the same time, parents should be encouraged to offer the older sibling opportunities for
competence. "The toddler's ability to do things better than the baby can be a good antidote for feelings
of jealousy" (Lieberman, 1993, p. 168). Similarly, Brazelton (1992) suggests that parents offer older
siblings the opportunity to engage in caretaking tasks (getting diapers when needed, picking out clothes
for the baby, etc.) when possible but without requiring it.
- Offer special time to the older sibling whenever possible (Lieberman, 1993). (See Also: Special Time pt
- Prepare older siblings for contact with adults outside the immediate family,
and offer special attention to the older sibling when others are preoccupied by the new baby
(Brazelton, T.B. 1992)
.
Sibling Fights (See Also: Sibling fights and bullying PT)
- Allow siblings to deal with their own conflicts
(Lieberman, A.F. 1993)
unless severe.
When parents take on the role of 'moderator' (p. 171) rather than stepping in to solve the problem
for the children, siblings develop problem-solving skills. Avoid favoritism or reprimanding or
punishing both children before determining the cause of the conflict
(Lieberman, A.F. 1993)
.
- Be aware of the need to protect vulnerable siblings. One third of child abuse
includes abuse by a sibling.
- Consider referral for problem child
- Follow-up visit or referral in severe cases
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