Dear Pediatric team:
I was so upset yesterday. My 18-month-old toddler bit another child at childcare! Her
teacher says that a few other children in the group are going through the "biting stage" and not
to worry. She said my daughter will outgrow it, but I don't want it to happen again! What should I do?
Horrified Mom
Dear Mom:
It is perfectly normal for toddlers to bite. It is also perfectly normal for
parents to be upset! You may also feel embarrassed about it. Your child's teacher
is partly correct when she says your daughter will outgrow it. Toddlers often go
through a period of grabbing or biting things. They don't always have words to express
their emotions. Often they tell us what is on their mind physically by hitting or biting.
Children can also be very oral, or focused on their mouths while they are learning language.
Biting is an unwelcome result of that focus. As toddlers grow, learn language to communicate,
and learn social rules, the biting phase ends with few or no mishaps. But, biting can become
a problem for some children, so you are right to be concerned. Thankfully, there are many
ways to deal with this behavior should happen again. Here are some suggestions for calmly
and effectively helping your child if she is biting.