Tips for discussing puberty with your child

The years before puberty are a good time start talking about the changes your child will go through. Usually this is around ages 8 to 10 years. Your child may ask questions like, "When will I get to shave?", "What is a period?" or "How are babies made?". Here are some tips for discussing puberty with your child.

• Don't make fun of questions your child may ask.
• You don't have to have one 'big' discussion about puberty. Take questions as they come.
Also take any openings for a discussion if they come up. For example, something you see on TV together or read in a book may bring up a chance to talk.
• Tell them puberty and the changes to their body are normal. Remind them everyone goes through it!
• Your library may have books that explain puberty for your child in an age appropriate way.
• Be straightforward and honest. Use proper names for body parts.
• Explain that during puberty their body will change. Tell them these changes are all normal.
• For girls, explain that body fat will increase and that it is normal and healthy.
• For boys, try to alleviate fears about their growth relative to peers.
• Tell your child to delay sexual intercourse as long as possible.
• Tell them the risks of sexually transmitted diseases.
• Be open to questions. Try not to judge.

American Academy of Pediatrics. Accessed February 14, 2005 at http://www.aap.org/healthtopics/sexuality.cfm