Tips for discussing puberty with your child
The years before puberty are a good time start talking about the changes
your child will go through. Usually this is around ages 8 to 10 years. Your child
may ask questions like, "When will I get to shave?", "What is a period?" or "How are
babies made?". Here are some tips for discussing puberty with your child.
- Don't make fun of questions your child may ask.
- You don't have to have one 'big' discussion about puberty. Take questions
as they come. Also take any openings for a discussion if they come up. For example, something
you see on TV together or read in a book may bring up a chance to talk.
- Tell them puberty and the changes to their body are normal. Remind them everyone goes through it!
- Your library may have books that explain puberty for your child in an age appropriate way.
- Be straightforward and honest. Use proper names for body parts.
- Explain that during puberty their body will change. Tell them these changes are all normal.
- For girls, explain that body fat will increase and that it is normal and healthy.
- For boys, try to alleviate fears about their growth relative to peers.
- Tell your child to delay sexual intercourse as long as possible.
- Tell them the risks of sexually transmitted diseases.
- Be open to questions. Try not to judge.
Resource for parents:
American Academy of Pediatrics. Accessed February 14, 2005 at http://www.aap.org/healthtopics/sexuality.cfm.