As a parent you have a very important role in your child's toilet training. You assist the process and set the emotional tone. If you feel tense your child will feel tense. If you are confident and relaxed, your child will be too. However, it is really your child who is in control of toilet training. For perhaps the first time your child is really becoming independent. This is a big step in your child's development. Now more than ever sticking to limits and being flexible at times are important. These sound like contradictory things, but they are not. Your child needs to feel safe and also feel as if they have some control over their 'world'. Now is the time to encourage that "Do it myself" attitude in your 2-year old. But don't back off established limits like safety rules and bedtimes. This is what makes your 2-year feel safe enough to "do it myself".
How parents are getting along with each other also affects
potty training. If there is a lot of arguing, kids may
express their fear through stool refusal or accidents.
Remember, this is the one area you can't force them to do
it your way. Also if parents disagree on how to toilet
train, kids may be confused. Take time with your partner
to make a plan about how you will approach toilet
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